January 25, 2021 Breaking News, Latest News, and Videos

The Weekly Hot Flash: Have No Regrets When You Are Old:

I was surfing the internet and ran across an article that totally got to me. It was about things you’ll regret when you’re old. I scanned the list. The more I read, the more inspired I was to NOT regret them.  

Many people, including myself, are too busy chasing “success” or making their next “million” to really think about the things they should do other than working. The great thing is, I still can do these things because I am not old.  

When I was 30, I thought 55 was ancient. My vision of myself now is younger than how I was when I was in my 30s! So here’s my top 10 list of things that I will NOT regret when I am old, whenever that time comes.

1) Forgoing sunscreen. I had really sensitive skin, prone to breakouts when I was in my early teens, so I took extremely good care of my skin, including using sunscreen. Now, my skin is still pretty young looking; I don’t have the “healthy-looking” tan, but I don’t have any of the wrinkles and the ruddy, aged skin that comes with it. Hurray for the pre-teen pimples!

2) Not quitting a terrible job. I had a client for many years that paid me a lot of money.  But there was such a price to pay for that money. Weight gain, no sleep, 15-hour days, eating crappy food, working with people who were downright mean. One day, I just woke up and decided to quit, and prepared myself for whatever happened next. Within 90 days, I had replaced the lost income and was headed for a much healthier life. What a little faith will reveal.

3) Being scared to do things. When I realized there was no such thing as fear, I was not afraid of anything any longer. Pretty deep, huh? Fear is a story you create in your head, based on past – real or imagined – experiences. It simply does not exist in my world any longer.

4) Failing to make physical fitness a priority. In my teens I was a ballet dancer, in my 20s a professional cheerleader, in my 30s an aerobics queen, and in my 40s, a workaholic.  My workouts came to a screeching halt and I gained 35 pounds within five years. This began to change when I quit the job I hated and started to work out and live a less-stressed life. I now look healthier and younger than I did at 45. A regular physical fitness regime literally saved my life, several times.

5) Not learning how to cook one awesome meal. I cook a lot of awesome meals now.   But my first really good dish that I still make is my lamb shanks with cannellini beans.  So delish. I make it at least once a year in the fall and have a party. People love it. I love it.

6) Not getting caught up in needless drama. Need I say more? Such a waste of energy.

7) Not realizing how beautiful you are. I remember looking at photos of me when I was younger. I thought I was so unattractive. Years later, I looked at them again. Damn, I was hot! Maybe I will feel that way about my current photos when I look at them again when I am 80.

8Being afraid to say “I love you.” It’s scary to say how you really feel, especially if you think you might be rejected. I believe that when you’re “old” you won’t care if the love was returned or not, only that you made it known how you felt.

9) Never taking a big risk. I took a big risk about 25 years ago. I rented my condo in Arizona, quit my job, and moved to Los Angeles with $3,000 to my name. I knew few people, rented a little place on Cloverdale on the Miracle Mile for $750 a month, and got a job as a Baby Stock Broker working for a Big Stock Broker. Since then, I have created a great life for myself, most of my dreams fulfilled. None of this would have occurred if I had stayed put.

10) Not being grateful sooner. It eventually becomes clear that every moment on earth, is a gift that we are all so lucky to share. I am so grateful.

Hot Flash Universe is the go-to source for women over 40 seeking insight into the hottest, most current trends, products, and issues. Topics are approached with candor, intellect, and a healthy dose of humor.

Barbara Bishop is President of Santa Monica-based BBPR, Inc. For comments or suggestions, email Barbara.bishop@bbprinc.com.

in News
Related Posts

Edify TV: Affordable Senior Housing Rises in Westside Neighborhood

January 24, 2021

January 24, 2021

A four-story senior affordable housing project is rising in a Westside neighborhood. Learn more in this video made possible by...

SMa.r.t. Column: Saving a Failed Marriage – Part 2

January 22, 2021

January 22, 2021

Every 8 years, the state requires cities to update their planning code’s “housing element” to reflect the number of dwelling...

Rise of The Digital Nomads Changing The Way We Rent?

January 22, 2021

January 22, 2021

Today on Westside Real Estate Show* Matt Damon Lists Palisades home for $21 Million.* Rise of The Digital Nomads Changing...

Edify TV: COVID-19 Outbreak at Santa Monica Government Office

January 21, 2021

January 21, 2021

Over a dozen employees have tested positive for COVID-19 at a Santa Monica government building since January 1. Learn more...

Santa Monica Students Receive 2021 Education Awards from The Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Westside Coalition

January 21, 2021

January 21, 2021

Seven area students were presented Education Awards by The Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Westside Coalition at the first-ever...

Santa Monica New Roads Graduate Amanda Gorman Shines At Inauguration: Santa Monica Beat – January, 21, 2021

January 21, 2021

January 21, 2021

Local news and culture in under 5 minutes. * Santa Monica New Roads Graduate Amanda Gorman Shines At Inauguration *...

Edify TV: Promenade Property Owner Frustrated With Homelessness

January 21, 2021

January 21, 2021

A Third Street Promenade property owner is calling Santa Monica officials to deal with the issue of homeless individuals sleeping...

65-Year-Old Santa Monica Pastry Shop Closes

January 21, 2021

January 21, 2021

Westside Food Scene January 21, 2021 By Kerry Slater Santa Monica Pastry Shop Closes  A beloved Santa Monica pastry shop...

Brian Dennehy Stars In The Tender DRIVEWAYS – His Final Film

January 21, 2021

January 21, 2021

What makes DRIVEWAYS particularly poignant is that it was Brian Dennehy’s last film before he died and his cinematic presence...

Free COVID-19 Antibody Testing in Santa Monica

January 20, 2021

January 20, 2021

Calvary Baptist Church on 20th Street, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. A Santa Monica church is doing free COVID-19 antibody...

FDA-Authorized Coronavirus Testing at Santa Monica’s Shore Hotel

January 20, 2021

January 20, 2021

Drive-thru and walk-up testing seven-days a week   The award-winning Shore Hotel, located steps away from the world-famous Santa Monica Pier,...

City Council Has Appointed An 11 Member Civilian Police Oversight Commission: Santa Monica Beat – January, 17, 2021

January 19, 2021

January 19, 2021

Local news and culture in under 5 minutes. * City Council Has Appointed An 11 Member Civilian Police Oversight Commission...

Edify TV: Ticketing Maskless Angelenos?

January 19, 2021

January 19, 2021

Los Angeles lawmakers want to fine people for not wearing masks. Learn more in this video made possible by School...

Santa Monica Pier to Close, Farmers Market Shortened for Inauguration Day

January 19, 2021

January 19, 2021

Library curbside service suspended as well By Sam Catanzaro Santa Monica is closing the Pier and shortening the farmers market’s...

Santa Monica Pier Ferris Wheel to Turn Amber as Part of Nationwide COVID-19 Memorial

January 18, 2021

January 18, 2021

Pacific Park joins nationwide COVID-19 memorial Tuesday night By Chad Winthrop The Santa Monica Pier ferris wheel will light up...